fish fingers going nowherePosted: 30/04/2013
i am writing this watching a small plate of food going cold on the kitchen table opposite me.
today’s small step forward was to see if my daughter could eat lunch at the table. she’s managing to eat breakfast at the table, although is sore afterwards.
no, she said, she doesn’t want to, ‘it hurts me, i think you’ll find.’
i’ve left her to think about it. told her to let me know when she would like me to help her up so she can come through and eat.
when does boundary setting become behaviour management become punishment?
it’s a trajectory i am deeply uncomfortable with.
at our meeting last week, the psychologist said –
1) complete recovery is unrealistic
2) increased activity will result in a return of function
it seems to me that these take us in opposite directions.
her lunch is cold.
and i feel like a bully.